She pushed him down in the chair and climbed across his lap to straddle him, grinding her hips in slow circular motion. She could feel the fortitude of his unspoken desire pressing firmly against her. Chills of satisfaction darted up her spine as he looked in her eyes with a wanting she hadn’t seen in years. ~
Now that I have your attention, let me pose this question, how long has it been since you felt desired by your spouse? How long has it been since your spouse has felt this wanting from you? Can you remember the last time you felt such intensity of passion that you couldn’t rip each other’s clothes off fast enough? Sadly for most married couples it has been too long.
There is no greater feeling than being wanted. There is no greater craving than the constancy of wanting to be wanted. It is a need that is built into the fabric of our nature. God designed human beings to require touch and intimacy. We were not created for loneliness; thus marriage struggles to survive when there is lack of physical affection.
Sexual intimacy is the main artery to marital bonding. Communication is the key to unlock sexual intimacy. What does that mean? It means you have to talk about sex with your partner. It is difficult, if not impossible, to regularly engage in sex with your spouse and remain emotionally, mentally or spiritually disconnected from them. Sex causes all channels to tune in, static free. We no longer live in the simplicity of an adjust-the-rabbit-ear world. We have satellite and cable, with hundreds of viewing options. Technologically we have evolved and sexually we must do the same. Twin beds and once a week sex doesn’t cut it in today’s marriage. Our relationships demand more because our environment offers more; thus we have grown to need more. Sexual stimulation in marriage is directly tied to overall communication in marriage so you cannot unplug one without it negatively affecting the output of the other. You must have something to Input in order to expect Output. It’s basic wiring.
When you stop having sex the communication conduit becomes clogged and marriage begins to suffer from shrinkage. It shrivels up like a penis in a cold pool. Seinfeld fans know what I’m talking about. Marriage requires the warmth of physical touch to survive and the constancy of sexual intimacy to thrive.